Ashley Madison

Discussion in 'In The News... Funny or Serious...' started by kelli, Aug 22, 2015.

  1. kelli

    kelli The original blip

  2. InMyImage

    InMyImage Geeky blip :) Staff Member

    You have got to be kidding. Why do women not only put up with this crap but blame themselves for it?
     
  3. kelli

    kelli The original blip

    it doesn't make sense, does it? but some women also blame themselves when they are physically abused or raped. i hate myself for that.
     
  4. InMyImage

    InMyImage Geeky blip :) Staff Member

    Yes and it's disturbing at times. A lot of it seems to come down to damage done to them psycologically through prior personal or family relationships or self esteem issues.

    I'm not sure that men really respond that differently than women either it's just that physical abuse tends not to be as severe when the man is the victim.
     
  5. dubya

    dubya Headbanging Blip

    I will never understand it.

    #1- why men act this way.


    #2-how women can actually see it as their fault
     
  6. muth

    muth More than a poop!

    We are born and raised into this social stigma. We have been duped into believing that we are "less than" and even demonized by the "Whore of Babylon". I've read much on women's studies and won't get into it here but maybe this little story shows an example that I saw with my own eyes.

    When I was 15 my BF confessed that her father had been sexually abusing her since the age of 12. She then said that he was starting in on her little 10 yr old sister. Her father was managing her mother's singing career, a woman who was sexy as hell and an all around hot ticket. She was great with the kids and treated me like a daughter. When the story finally broke the parents went into counseling. When I asked my friend how it was going she replied that the doctor explained that mom was not giving dad enough attention so he turned to his children. BINGO! And there you have it. Blame the woman. This is the world we know. This is how men in our society not only keep us small and insignificant but make us responsible for their wrongdoings. So you may ask, "How's that working for ya?" :p

    The good news is that, IMO, I think that men's and women's consciousness is raising. Of course, we're going to hear about the horrid stuff that's still happening but we never hear about the success stories, the people who are striving for enlightenment and have made great strides in their personal lives and in the lives of others, concerning this issue. That's why I stay connected with my Buddhist practice and friends, so I can share and hear the personal stories of how people have overcome great suffering due to the illnesses of society and the sickness of their own souls.
     
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  7. dubya

    dubya Headbanging Blip

    Well put muth
     
  8. muth

    muth More than a poop!

    Thank you, sweetness:)
     
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  9. dubya

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    You are quite welcome. You have a certain way of writing things, that makes them very easy to read. And agree with;)
     
  10. muth

    muth More than a poop!

    Why thank you, dube:)Especially the agreeing part;)
     
  11. dubya

    dubya Headbanging Blip

    I just don't get it. Men are men. Women are women. No different. Just the same. If a man treats you wrong, get the fuck out. If a woman treats you wrong, get the fuck out. I just don't understand why so many women have a problem with this? I'm not blaming the women, I just don't get it????
     
  12. InMyImage

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    This is an insightful post. I actual experienced this a bit first hand after Shelly and I got married. Something happened with her step father and afterwards she was having depression issues. After a lot of time talking and supporting her I found out that she had been sexually abused by relatives when she was in her early teens, date raped by a guy the step father set her up with when she was 19 or 20 and we figured out that her step father was sexually attracted to her and had been peeping on her for a long time. Over time we found out that he and her mother have never had sex together and we suspect that he married her to be around Shelly. Sick Sick Sick!

    She still struggles with these issues today and all I can do is support her and try to help best I can. When I say that we have an incredibly strong relationship it's because we both need each other to help support and love each unconditionally even with all our baggage.
     
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  13. dubya

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    Also sympathy, agree. etc. I will always be amazed how many women go through these tough things.
     
  14. InMyImage

    InMyImage Geeky blip :) Staff Member

    @muth is right. Men have been taking advantage of women for a long long time. Fortunately that is changing and I think rapidly but it is going to take a generation or two to make truly significant progress and all that really depends on how things go from a societal standpoint. There are a lot of things going on with the current teen generation that are pretty scary from a healthy functional society standpoint that go way beyond simple male female relations.
     
  15. dubya

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    Wasn't this way for me and my wife. We had the choice to avoid it, and did. It scares the living hell out of me for my daughters.
     
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  16. InMyImage

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    Choice to avoid it? You are going to have to elaborate...
     
  17. dubya

    dubya Headbanging Blip

    Just mean the option to be that way was there, but not so predominant. Seems to be getting stronger, like it's just the way things are. If that makes sense?
     
  18. InMyImage

    InMyImage Geeky blip :) Staff Member

    I think so. I'm just fortunate that Brittany was to busy to date. Feel bad for the fact that she is almost 20 and never been kissed though :oops:
     
  19. dubya

    dubya Headbanging Blip

    Idk, as you know, I have been with my wife forever. First real kiss I would say, and everything else. And we turned out ok, I think anyway :cry:
     
  20. InMyImage

    InMyImage Geeky blip :) Staff Member

    I think that you are a rare breed but it seems like a lot more high school sweetheart marriages work out long term here in the mid-west. Back in CA everyone that I knew who married their HS sweetheart divorced them in less than 5 years.